Your True Selfie – The Relentless Pursuit of Who God Created You to Be

Day Five

When our daughters were little, they loved watching the movie, Snow White. Remember how the witch would pose this question to her mirror,

“Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest one of all?”

Daily and with much arrogance, she would wait for and expect the affirmation of her beauty.

But one day the affirmation didn’t come.

And when the mirror candidly replied, “You, my queen, have beauty rare, but Snow White is beyond compare,” the witch’s anger, fear and insecurity manifested in a tirade of emotion as she vowed vengeance on her competition.

While the witch desperately craved the affirmation of her beauty and approval of her worth, I can’t help thinking that we, as women, are not much different.

How often do I “go to the mirror” to measure my worth? My identity? My looks? My weight? To see how my clothes fit? To stare in horror at the gray hair and wrinkles that seem to be multiplying by the day?

How often do I look to other people to build my confidence and affirm my significance? Seeking their approval, desiring their compliments?

How often do I search for value and meaning through my work? Working with messed up motives to fill some void in my life? Avoiding situations where I may fail or look bad?

How much of my life have I invested trying to secure the approval of others? Avoiding conflict, acquiescing, people pleasing because I don’t have the self-confidence to assert myself.

Ouch. Too much.

And then sometimes, when things don’t work out as I had hoped, I respond with the same childlike behavior as the witch! I become angry, and defensive, feeling rejected, anxious and discouraged.

Poor little me. *sigh*

We all have an inborn desire and need for worth and significance.

God created us that way.

We invest a lot of time taking care of the externals, but often fall short when it comes to investing in the internals – our true self. Gradually, we find ourselves sinking in the rut of not enough.

Not smart enough, not pretty enough, not thin enough, not young enough, not old enough, not successful enough, not good enough, not enough as a mom, not enough as a wife, not patient enough, not kind enough…

We can fill our lives with a lot of good things – career, marriage, children, friendships and success, but none is life-giving. None will permanently fill that nagging cry for worth and significance.

None will be enough.

Read how the apostle Paul inspired the Corinthian people in their quest for worth and significance…

We are confident of all this because of our great trust in God through Christ. 5 It is not that we think we are qualified to do anything on our own. Our qualification comes from God. 2 C

We are confident of all this because of our great trust in God through Christ. It is not that we think we are qualified to do anything on our own. Our qualification comes from God. 2 Corinthians 3:4-5 NLT

Only God gives us reason to be confident. Only God qualifies us. Only God can eternally fill the void and only God can fully satisfy.

Our sufficiency is completely in Christ alone.

When we look to other people and other things to define our worth, we miss out on being able to embrace the uniqueness of who God has made us to be.

When we scramble and fill our need for worth and significance with people and our performance, we miss out on experiencing the fullness that comes from being filled with the fullness of God.

Depending on your job, husband, children, friends, success in school, or anything else for satisfaction will only leave you longing for more. There will always be someone who is more qualified, more talented, kinder, funnier, smarter, prettier . . . more perfect! Trust me, it will drive you crazy.

Your faith and hope are not anchored in your circumstances. They’re not rooted in your relationships. They’re not built on the foundation of what you can do. They’re anchored in Jesus and His power to radically transform and completely fulfill your life.

You’re invited to join me on this journey as, together, we discover our true selfie and how embracing our identity in Christ gives us the power to change the way we live.

My prayer for you is that in these upcoming devotionals, God would reaffirm his love for you, as you are right now. I hope as you meditate on the scriptures, God would reveal to you, in a greater way, how He really sees you.

Your True Selfie.

 

Take a moment to consider…

  • Can I honestly say I derive my worth completely from God? Where else do I look for my worth and significance? Why do I do that?
  • Where are you feeling “not enough” right now? How does knowing that God is enough, encourage you to live with a different perspective?
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Contagiously Clean

While Jesus was in one of the towns, a man came along who was covered with leprosy. When he saw Jesus, he fell with his face to the ground and begged him, “Lord, if you are willing, you can make me clean.” 13 Jesus reached out his hand and touched the man. “I am willing,” he said. “Be clean!” And immediately the leprosy left him. Luke 5:12-13

Leprosy is a horrible disease that affects the skin destroys the nerve endings, making its victim unable to feel anything. Sores break out on the skin and when they begin to ulcerate, the smell is horrible. Those diagnosed with leprosy were declared “unclean” in the Jewish culture, and because leprosy was contagious, those who contracted it were forbidden to live in the community. They were considered outcasts and even those who touched them would also be considered unclean.

In this Bible story, Luke tells us that this man was covered in leprosy. Imagine the disfigurement. Sense the stench coming from his body. Feel the fear that gripped people as they saw this man enter the community, their community – a community filled with their children and the people they loved. And this man had the audacity to enter their midst, with his body decaying and oozing leprosy in their town.

What would you do? How would you treat this man? Honestly, I would grab my kids and run. Sadly, I don’t think I would even try to be kind or compassionate; I’d be more concerned about staying away from him.

Most likely this man was used to rude treatment, insensitive comments, fearful gazes and people shrinking back in his presence. He had lived as an outcast, rejected by society, a disgrace to his family, and shunned in the Jewish culture.

In desperation, as a last resort, this man musters a shred of hope and cries out to Jesus, “If you are willing…”

Notice that he didn’t say, “If you are able…” This man knew rejection. He wore the scars of shame. He lived in the shadows as an outcast—unloved, unwanted, unaccepted and avoided by people. His concern wasn’t in Christ’s ability. It was Jesus’ willingness to help him.

Would Jesus help someone like me?

Could Jesus love – or even kinda care about – someone like me?

And Jesus responds by touching him.

What a tender moment Luke captures! Jesus touched the man before he cleansed him. He drew near to this man while he was still unclean, still an outcast, still unacceptable, still avoided by society. Jesus identifies with him by becoming unclean himself before He heals him.

Is your story any different? Not really. In 2 Corinthians 5:21, Paul reminds us that

God made him who knew no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.

God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. 2 Corinthians 5:21

It is in our uncleanliness, in our pain, in our ugliness that Jesus extends His love to cleanse and heal our lives. In our awkwardness and feeling alienated from God, Jesus reaches out to us and does a beautiful thing.

He becomes sin for us, sharing our pain, taking the burden of our shame upon Himself.

Sin, like leprosy, isolates us, cloaking us in shame. Even more importantly, it isolates us from God. It’s highly contagious – running unrestrained and rampant in our world like chicken pox in an elementary school.

Shame tells us that what we’ve done is too bad to be forgiven, that our mistakes are irreparable and our failures are unrecoverable. Shame whispers to us that our lives are beyond repair.

But to the contrary, Jesus is contagiously clean. Anything He touches is restored. Anything in His presence is transformed, made holy, righteous and whole. In His light, the darkness of shame begins to recede, making way for truth. Pure, hope-full, grace-filled truth!

Our failures become opportunities for growth, our mistakes are forgiven, leaving us to experience His abundant grace generously, and undeservedly poured out to us.

You don’t have to shrink back in fear; you no longer have to live isolated, bound by sin and cloaked in shame.

You don’t have to doubt God’s willingness to cleanse you.

In Christ, you are clean.

What fear, failure or feeling of shame keeps you from believing the truth that, in Christ, you are clean?

“But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.” 1 John 1:7