When our daughters were little, they loved watching the movie, Snow White. Remember how the witch would pose this question to her mirror,
“Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest one of all?”
Daily and with much arrogance, she would wait for and expect the affirmation of her beauty.
But one day the affirmation didn’t come.
And when the mirror candidly replied, “You, my queen, have beauty rare, but Snow White is beyond compare,” the witch’s anger, fear and insecurity manifested in a tirade of emotion as she vowed vengeance on her competition.
While the witch desperately craved the affirmation of her beauty and approval of her worth, I can’t help thinking that we, as women, are not much different.
How often do I “go to the mirror” to measure my worth? My identity? My looks? My weight? To see how my clothes fit? To stare in horror at the gray hair and wrinkles that seem to be multiplying by the day?
How often do I look to other people to build my confidence and affirm my significance? Seeking their approval, desiring their compliments?
How often do I search for value and meaning through my work? Working with messed up motives to fill some void in my life? Avoiding situations where I may fail or look bad?
How much of my life have I invested trying to secure the approval of others? Avoiding conflict, acquiescing, people pleasing because I don’t have the self-confidence to assert myself.
Ouch. Too much.
And then sometimes, when things don’t work out as I had hoped, I respond with the same childlike behavior as the witch! I become angry, and defensive, feeling rejected, anxious and discouraged.
Poor little me. *sigh*
We all have an inborn desire and need for worth and significance.
God created us that way.
We invest a lot of time taking care of the externals, but often fall short when it comes to investing in the internals – our true self. Gradually, we find ourselves sinking in the rut of not enough.
Not smart enough, not pretty enough, not thin enough, not young enough, not old enough, not successful enough, not good enough, not enough as a mom, not enough as a wife, not patient enough, not kind enough…
We can fill our lives with a lot of good things – career, marriage, children, friendships and success, but none is life-giving. None will permanently fill that nagging cry for worth and significance.
None will be enough.
Read how the apostle Paul inspired the Corinthian people in their quest for worth and significance…
We are confident of all this because of our great trust in God through Christ. 5 It is not that we think we are qualified to do anything on our own. Our qualification comes from God. 2 Corinthians 3:4-5 NLT
Only God gives us reason to be confident. Only God qualifies us. Only God can eternally fill the void and only God can fully satisfy.
Our sufficiency is completely in Christ alone.
When we look to other people and other things to define our worth, we miss out on being able to embrace the uniqueness of who God has made us to be.
When we scramble and fill our need for worth and significance with people and our performance, we miss out on experiencing the fullness that comes from being filled with the fullness of God.
Depending on your job, husband, children, friends, success in school, or anything else for satisfaction will only leave you longing for more. There will always be someone who is more qualified, more talented, kinder, funnier, smarter, prettier . . . more perfect! Trust me, it will drive you crazy.
Your faith and hope are not anchored in your circumstances. They’re not rooted in your relationships. They’re not built on the foundation of what you can do. They’re anchored in Jesus and His power to radically transform and completely fulfill your life.
You’re invited to join me on this journey as, together, we discover our true selfie and how embracing our identity in Christ gives us the power to change the way we live.
My prayer for you is that in these upcoming devotionals, God would reaffirm his love for you, as you are right now. I hope as you meditate on the scriptures, God would reveal to you, in a greater way, how He really sees you.
Your True Selfie.
Take a moment to consider…
- Can I honestly say I derive my worth completely from God? Where else do I look for my worth and significance? Why do I do that?
- Where are you feeling “not enough” right now? How does knowing that God is enough, encourage you to live with a different perspective?